4 Surprising Steps to More Freedom
More freedom = take more responsibility
You can only feel freer when you can fully accept that your happiness is your responsibility. And that goes deeper than you think at first.
It means that you:
- No longer expect others to treat you differently.
- Your happiness is no longer in the hands of others.
- Stop whining and start accepting or taking action.
- Take responsibility for problems you have not caused but which you suffer from.
- Take action on dreams and desires that you cherish.
- Really start to take care of your body.
- Realize that your thoughts and feelings are yours, alone.
The victim’s role is in a small corner. And the farther you can stay away from that corner, the more free you feel.
But how do you take more responsibility in order to experience more freedom? Below are 4 practical tips to more freedom.
#1. Understand that there is ALWAYS something you can do
And even if there is nothing you can do, you can work to accept the situation, then you have something to do.
Just take a look at how many situations cause you, in subtle ways to fall into the victim’s role. You’re looking for excuses for why you cannot do things. And in that way you continuously sabotage your own success.
You will cut feathers of your wings to prevent you from rising because you’re afraid of the height. But if you were not going to sabotage your wings, you would not have to worry. With strong wings, you’re not just falling from the sky.
There are always things you can do to improve the situation. So stop whining and wonder, “What little step can I now take to get closer to my goal?”
With small steps you can always make things a bit better.
#2. Observe and accept the reality
Life is as it is.
And that stays true – even if you do not agree. Even if you fight against it. It is what it is.
The faster you learn to see this, the better you will feel. The reality is as it is. This is your starting point. The point from which you can look ahead and build a better future.
The past cannot be changed. The present is what it is. The future is profitable.
Stop resisting yourself. Accept the reality. Simply because it’s the only wise thing to do. It’s just the way it is.
#3. Draw your problem
Ask yourself: “What would I do if I could take full responsibility for this problem?”
- If you do not point to anyone else.
- If you would stop accusing neutral events.
- If you let go of the past.
- If you use the current reality as a neutral starting point.
You would stop whining about how difficult it is to leave those cookies – and just let them sit there. Because you realize that you are responsible for your health, and it’s crazy to blame those cookies for eating them.
You would stop internal dialogs like “I can eat cookies now, because it was a hard day at work. I think I deserve it. ”
You would realize that you cannot dive away from your responsibility. And that cookies make you fat – whether you’ve earned them or not.
It is difficult. But it will get easier. Because the more you take full responsibility, the better your life begins to be.
#4. Understand that only YOU can make yourself happy
Nobody will make you happy. Nobody will save you. No prince on a white horse. No long-haired princess.
No, you’re not alone. But to build a good life for yourself, you do it alone. Others can support you in your development, but, ultimately, your happiness is your responsibility.
So if you feel something has to happen – do it. Because nobody will realize your dreams for you. Nobody will solve your problems for you.
Because, you know, life is ultimately just a struggle with yourself. The sooner you become better than the person you were yesterday, the better your life will be. Live in freedom ..